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First post, by KT7AGuy

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ashbash wrote:

I used to think this too, but you will nearly go insane in the process. Nothing wrong with going out once in a while.

Sanity is highly overrated as well.

I've seen what lurks outside. If that's "sane", then I see nothing wrong with a quiet, solitary existence safely removed from "sanity".

There's nothing wrong with going outside either. Like I said before: Don't let anybody else tell you what should be making you happy. Just watch your weight and try to stay healthy while you do your own thing.

Reply 1 of 3, by ashbash

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KT7AGuy wrote:

Sanity is highly overrated as well.

You won't be saying that when your mind actually goes. I've been there (locked myself in for 4 months straight at one point), and it's certainly not pretty. I got out of isolating myself from the world so much and it helped a lot for my mental state - went out there, actually decided to further my education etc to the point of getting my degree. I still naturally prefer solitude and still don't talk to a lot of people, but not to the same extent as before.

I've seen what lurks outside. If that's "sane", then I see nothing wrong with a quiet, solitary existence safely removed from "sanity".

Going outside as in doing basic stuff, with at least a basic level of socialisation. Interacting with someone in a shop to get what you need, that kind of stuff - not even conversation.

Like I said before: Don't let anybody else tell you what should be making you happy.

Encouraging isolation is more damaging than that, IMO. Not trying to dictate someone's life, but I had to respond since it does nothing but make things much worse, especially from my own experience.

Reply 2 of 3, by Yasashii

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This isn't exactly on topic but I believe it to be an important matter so here goes:

I can tell you first-hand how it feels to be on both ends of the social scale. I used to be a very isolated person. If a person gave me a single significant reason not to like them, I didn't want to have anything to do with them. I didn't tolerate imperfections. At all. As a result, I ended up being a grumpy loner whom nobody liked and who didn't like anybody.

This, unsurprisingly, led to depression paired with anxiety around people. As it is common for depressed people, I evaluated myself very harshly. On one hand it wasn't healthy because it made me resent myself, on the other, though, it actually was good for me, because I came to realize that there are things about me that I don't like but that are true. I've been working on those ever since. I'm ashamed that although there is some progress, it isn't great.

A few months ago I went to a new psychiatrist in a whole different clinic in hopes that they would put a little more effort in my case than the old place I used to frequent. They did. The new psychiatrist asked me a bunch of questions, had me tell her a bunch of stuff and in the end she assigned me to a therapist and prescribed some different pills. She was surprised that my previous clinic didn't do that.

Shortly after something broke inside me. I have no idea if it's the result of the new pills or whether I just got scared by a psychiatrist actually immediately assigning me to a therapist rather than just giving me some happy pills, but I changed. I rekindled some of the old acquaintances. I started talking to and meeting people I broke contact with years ago because I couldn't tolerate them.

As a result I now actually go out. I go to parties every now and then. I meet new people. Most of them still bring my blood to a boil for various reasons but the point is: I've turned my life around... well, at least a bit.

And I've got to tell you; it feels better. One thing that scares me is that I've had periods during which I felt fine, almost happy, before. I always eventually relapsed into misery. Previously, though, it happened for no actual reason. It just did. This time I've actually made changes. My psychiatrist says that it's most likely a temporary situation anyway. The depression I've had for years isn't likely to go away forever just because I changed some things.

Still, the situation, such as it is right now, feels good. It feels better than loneliness. A few months ago I wouldn't have said this.

BUUUT back to the topic: I would personally recommend getting a proper, old fashioned mouse. They used to make that stuff a whole lot better than they do nowadays. My mouse is A4tech X-710. I recommend it to anyone. The wheel still works like new. It has an adjustable DPI tapping out at 1000 (and let's be honest, you don't really need more than that), and if feels good in my hand despite the simple, seemingly office-oriented shape. I also recommend any Microsoft mice. They might be the company that made Windows Vista but they sure do make damn good peripherals. Be prepared to pay a pretty penny for those, though.

Reply 3 of 3, by KT7AGuy

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ashbash wrote:
KT7AGuy wrote:

Sanity is highly overrated as well.

KT7AGuy wrote:

Like I said before: Don't let anybody else tell you what should be making you happy.

Encouraging isolation is more damaging than that, IMO. Not trying to dictate someone's life, but I had to respond since it does nothing but make things much worse, especially from my own experience.

Thank you for replying and letting me know. I'm certainly not trying to make anything worse for anybody or trying to encourage isolation.

Anyways, I'm going to be quiet about this subject now, because I think my words may not be the positive suggestion I previously thought them to be.