3Com and Intel make their own chips. Very nice and fast cards, low CPU overhead which I suppose means bus mastering. Otherwise a good idea with a slower CPU.
The Netgear card could have a Realtek chip, could you check for the company logo? (Stylized crab.) In that case: Very compatible, higher CPU overhead. Still, even Realtek 8139 supports bus mastering.
I don't know if it's possible to turn off bus mastering or if the drivers will still work with the card after doing that. (Here is described how to enable bus mastering for RTL8139 but I don't know if that would accomplish anything. If it worked it would certainly mean higher CPU utilization.
If you don't like to use an ISA card you could either look for other NIC brands (although many use Realtek chips), or you could try to slow the card down a different way, like through PCI configuration or by switching it to 10MB mode (the latter shouldn't be too difficult, and if you use it on a switch it won't hurt other decices).