As mentioned.. 5.25" and 3.5" are different. The RPM/double-stepping stuff is 5.25" drive specifc.
3.5" drives will just write narrower sectors on 1.44MB disks. The speed needed to write such sectors exceeds the XT controller's abilities.
I suggest you just grab a 1.44MB 3.5" drive and plug it into the XT's controller. Nothing bad will happen.. at worst it will not recognize your disks. Of course, stick to 720K disks, or cover the whole for 1.44MB disks to fool the drive into thinking they're 720K disks.
My TurboXT came with a 720KB 3.5" drive, but I've removed it in lieu of two 360K 5.25" drives as is typical of XT machines. Almost all XT software shipped on 5.25" 360K disks anyways.
Turbo XT 12MHz, 8-bit VGA, Dual 360K drives
Intel 386 DX-33, TSeng ET3000, SB 2.0, 1x CD
Intel 486 DX2-66, CL5428 VLB, SBPro 2, 2x CD
Intel Pentium 90, Matrox Millenium 2, SB16, 4x CD
HP Z400, Xeon 3.46GHz, YMF-744, Voodoo3, RTX2080Ti