Reply 80 of 100, by Sabina_16bit.
butjer1010 wrote on 2025-03-13, 20:43:Sabina_16bit. wrote on 2025-03-13, 11:11:Depends on the overall budget dependencies. We r both sick,but her sickness is insufficient to get pension,thus we have 1 incom […]
butjer1010 wrote on 2025-03-13, 06:40:Heheheh, no it's not stored in the bedroom (not yet), i have 2 rooms full of my stuff, so there's the problem. Anger adequate to the amount??? I didn't think about that also! Maybe this is the main reason of her anger??? Not the lack of space for her things 😀
Depends on the overall budget dependencies.
We r both sick,but her sickness is insufficient to get pension,thus we have 1 income for 3 persons(the 3rd is the Cat,who 1ce caused 1 of my best monitors to fall & brake,thus probably it also was a protest?),& thus when I buy some HW,she gets angry immediately,when it arrives &/or when the account is empty,the 1st question of her interrogation is:"How expensive it was?",the 2nd question is:"Will it somehow serve me too?",I can lie for the 1st question to temporarily reduce her anger,but the main effect of any transaction comes @ the end of the fiscal month,because if the account is empty for 1 week,she is angry for 1 week,if the account is empty for 2 weeks,she is angry for 2 weeks,quite a difference...
But sometimes she is angry & I am innocent,because sometimes she is able to empty the account herself,but her 1st mind then is,I sure bought some HW & if I didn't,I must open transaction records on the account & show her & then she is really surprised,this time that was not my fault,that the account is empty...
& sometimes she orders an audit,when she has a suspicion,I might be over my half or too close to it...
The main trouble,if U have this hobby & a partner @ 1ce,is,Your partner(unless sharing the hobby) will always see all Your money invested into Your hobby as those money,she/he/ze cannot invest into her/zer/his hobby,so she/he/ze sees Your hobby as a concurrence to Your hobby.
Probably the only solution is to think ahead,when U r dating & chose a partner,who shares Your hobby,which is almost impossible & now we would fall into a pit of analyzing,y there r so few Women with this hobby & even fewer of them with compatible orientation...
So maybe only those very welthy of us may live in peace,as when U will give 100000$ monthly to Your partner,then she/he/ze will sure lovely tolerate Your (whatever) hobby.Ahahahahahahha, You got me laugh decently!!! All You wrote here is true, period. But i have found a way to calm her even when the account is empty 😀 We have 2 children, daughter 20, and son 18 years old. I convinced her that those computers and parts will be more expensive over time (probably will be), and that this is the "heritage" i will left to my kids when i'll be gone 😀 Sometimes that story can calm her, but when she sees my rooms, we can start again 😀 Even if had to risk my life, i will never stop to collect old hardware, because this is like gambling - You cannot stop 'till You winning! And every new purchase seems like winning 😀 As a matter of fact, in time of writing this, i just bought CT1750 with all new capacitors 😀
Congrats.
& yes,U r all right here too.
But when I am using the strategy,that that HW will be more valuable over time,she replies often something like "we may have about 10 years left,will that gain value within this time?!"...& we know,only 286s & maybe some 386s will get more value in time reasonable for her...& true,the difference is,we do not have kids...except for the adopted Cat...
& about addiction:
For me upgrading is more addictive than hoarding whole systems.
I promised Her,I will not buy any other PC,I will just continue saving scraps or trading newer for older,etc.& I am quite capable to do so,no gambling @ this level,but then,when I get comps for free,here is my gambling-the obsession to upgrade them to its max.,& then I buy stogare of maximum capacity supported by MoBo/OS & same with RAM,then some expansion cards,in case of laptops often also new battery & the account gets drained like my old EV's battery,when I am driving uphill(i even started to call the known hills by the consumption needed to get to them,for example "4.5KWh hill" drains 45% of my battery...yes...it is only 10KWh),but it is not so easy to recharge the account as to recharge the vehicle & for example when I use 10% of my pension for buying computer parts,I feel,I did the worst sin,which can be done in a relationship (with a non-hoarder),but that is so addictive,U get the comp for free,but then U wish to install the best possible HW into it,fill all slots,all connectors...yes...this part is the gambling part for me,even more than the final gaming on the finished system,if I just could sell them @ the end,then she would be happy,but I cannot,if I give several hours to it,make a satisfying machine again out of the scrap,I cannot sell it then,it becomes part of my family...yes,I have silicon kids...