You can actually make your own SLI bridge pretty easily out of a floppy cable- I did that for my voodoo 2 SLI rig and it works without issues.
You do need drivers installed for SLI and you can change the setting between SLI or single card through the driver control panel.
As for 8MB vs 12MB it depends on the game, many games won't see a difference but some later games, (eg Quake 2 engined games) do benefit from the extra memory. You are limited to 1024x768 with SLI, or 800x600 with a single card, regardless of how much video memory is on them.
Voodoo 2 SLI actually scales very well with CPU speed, you actually won't see it reach its full potential untill you move to much faster CPUs over a gigahertz. So technically yes a 200MMX will bottleneck the SLI but its nothing to worry about as that is actually what was available at the time the Voodoo 2's were being sold 😀 You will still get a benefit from SLI.
As for commander keen, try enabling SVGA compatibility mode in the options. I think there are command line switches like /COMP or /LATCHPEL to help with video issues, check the readme or help file.