Humm. I have no experience at all using an XTIDE. I just read a few articles and docs about it. I have a 286 to restore that would benefit to have one.
Your problem seems to be a wrong partition scheme. The message "Starting MS-DOS 7.1..." is read from IO.SYS or MSDOS.SYS, I don't remember. As it is DOS 7.1, it could be formatted to FAT32 and small files like IO.SYS or MSDOS.SYS are directly stored in the FAT I think, not on the storage space. COMMAND.COM should be stored out of the FAT on the other hand. It is a .COM file, normally under 64 KB, but maybe too large to be stored in the FAT. If you have a wrong partition table or format sector size, it could lead to the startup files not able to read the storage space, but read without problem the FAT. You can try to fix the MBR or reformat the C partition but I think it will not solve anything. And I agree with @keropi, you don't need any additional HDD tools to allow the use of the correct disk size. The goal of XTIDE is to do just that.
The T3200SXC seems to be compliant to IDE, using the correct address space and interrupts.
So what I recommend, because I don't see any other options. Backup the content of your CF file on a PC. Then put the CF back in the T3200SXC. Use a Windows 98SE startup floppy with FDISK, SYS and FORMAT on it. Boot on it and use FDISK to remove all partition, then create them again and mark the C partition as bootable. As XTIDE as loaded its code, FDISK should be able to recognize the whole disk capacity. Reboot on the floppy and format using FORMAT C: /SYS. Then restore the content to the CF. And start the computer again without the floppy. If everything is done correctly the PC should boot correctly, if not, then it is a more deeper problem that need some work to understand.
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