Bit late but having gone through the same process years back I thought to add my few cents.
My recommendation to everyone going fresh into vintage XCOM is to play exclusively with OpenXcom (or even better OpenXcom Extended) and forget about everything else. Reason being it's simply impossible to play the original as developers intended due to AI being broken in later larger maps, along with missing enemy placement nodes (further exacerbating AI issues). That's unless you get screwed by few career-ending bugs along the way. Source port fixes everything while adding many QoL stuff and can even load vanilla saves. The only thing it can't do is reproduce vanilla AI but as I said not even the original had a working AI. From my once vast experiences OXC/E enemies, both in Geoscape and Battlescape, faithfully recreate vanilla (when it's working) behavior. Its developers strictly follow vanilla-friendly principles so there's no fear of it ever turning into something else.
Over the years there have been several projects of fixing the bugs in vanilla while retaining the AI. As a hardcore purists I tried most of them but no one has done it right. Closes it ever got was an old version of UFO Extender, itself a continuation of UFO Loader by seb76, before Extender's dev took too many design liberties and mucked it all up. I spent so much time finding and fiddling with the proper way to play this thing it's unreal but OXCE is easily the best hands down.
Other than that you should definitely give the manual a good reading to get you started with the basics. The rest will fall in place naturally. Once you're done with OG games, give X-PirateZ total conversion a try and prepare to be blown away! :)