what chipset are you using, what CPU-power?
I'm using almost the same config 😀 It's in my forum signature (what's not in there is the motherboard model - DFI CS32-TC), and I also sometimes swap the CPU between the Celeron 800/128/100 and a Pentium III 600/256/133 - comparing their behavior and trying to choose the best one of the two. So far the Celly proved to be better for my purposes (it's slow enough for ancient games on FSB 66 + Throttling, and it can overclock to 1066 Mhz by simply engaging the FSB 133 instead of FSB 100 - which keeps the other components cool and safe on stock frequencies, unlike when you overclock a PIII 600EB past its FSB 133).
I'm not sure what's so different about our configs that the same workarounds don't work on yours. Mine is a pretty default and unmodified: I'm using a separate DOS 6.22 partition and the latest official Windows ME build without any further updates; the WDM driver is bone stock and comes from the setup, so I'm not even installing that manually. The only thing I do is specify the Solo-1's MPU-401 module as the General MIDI source instead of the Windows' own GM font, which is selected by default.
Regarding the Pinball series - I'll check them later today more thoroughly and will update the list accordingly, but, just before going for work today, I've tried Epic Pinball and Extreme Pinball - and they both worked beautifully in Windows and with "Sound Blaster (Mono)" setting, albeit with soft crackling noise in the background (but this is a very light case of it, compared to games like OMF2097 or Super Star Wars - but at least in those the crackling is consistent and not random like in Death Rally - which is much less bearable IMO). Not sure if it's indeed the fast CPU that's causing it, because when I slow it down via Throttle.exe - it behaves like earlier-generation CPUs (XT, 386, slow and fast 486, Pentium, Pentium II) properly and 100% of the time. And with the Pinball games the crackling is the same with or without a slowdown - at least on my system.
Tombraider1 (3Dfx) does not work with Solo1 actual.
My case is too small to host a Voodoo1, unfortunately (although I have one and can use it via a PCI cable extender should the need arise). Does the regular non-accelerated DOS Tomb Raider 1 work for you, though?
DreamblasterS2 is also not usable with WDM-Drivers
I've also experienced this when I tried to install them separately - after uninstalling the VxD drivers. Have you tried using the WinME's built-in WDM drivers that install automatically with the clean OS? If you intend to use Windows 98SE, I'm afraid I have no idea how to fix the WDM drivers there.