Alright, on a more serious note. Afaik reversing the cable will 'usually' result in a short. The major exceptions are IDE cables and MOST floppy drives connected to a reversed floppy cable (some very old proprietary oem floppy drives might get damaged if you reverse the cables).
I have kinda the same problem, wanting to try out an old ISA video capture card I have. As I don't have any of the original cables I'm gonna be forced to use the 26 pin feature connector and I sure as **** don't want to break it by attaching the cable the wrong way! 🙁
And I think if you connect scsi drives reversed, it'll get burned as well.
Same with old processors, fit them the wrong way and bad things will happen.
So there are basically 2 things you, and I, can do. Either find some original documentation, or connect pin 1 to pin 1.
Sometimes pin 1 isn't marked as such but I found that if it isn't, often the solder dot of pin 1 is a square instead of a circle, so to say.
But I still find it very odd that a daughterboard which is, as far as I know, made for your particular soundcard connector can't fit.
I think the suggestion elianda posted is the best one. Just make sure you connect pin 1 to pin 1.
But I want to emphasize that I'm not really home in this material. I've never even used a soundcard daughterboard before.