Turns out the issue that I had on my last attempt was that the 27C512 EEPROM that I was using had a broken leg. Wasn't bent. Just wasn't there. Snapped off at the plastic. Must have popped off at the last insert.
So I configured a 12K image of XUB r630 386L for 32 bit VLB access, put a single copy of it on an M27C256B eprom, and it worked. The system boots loads XUB!
Wouldn't be retro computing without headaches though. The system wasn't stable. Would lock up in the BIOS with or without the ROM if I tried to detect the CF. Would fail 1/2 through booting from floppy. I cleaned contacts, adjusted isa clocks, messed with shadowing, found no luck. I switched to a different CF and everything seems to work now. Strange. I tried a couple CF's and they all work. It just doesn't like that one Samsung 512MB CF. Anyway ....
XUB gives me 2800KB/s in speedsys buffered reads while the 6500 dos driver only gives me 2700KB/s in speedsys buffered reads, so that's a win for XUB.